Last Updated on May 4, 2020 by ellduclos
A Note for the One Trying to do it ALL
Let me guess, you’re reading this because lately you feel as if you have been trying to do it ALL and yet you still can’t get it done? You put all of your effort into something, and yet here you are still trying to make it WORK… Been there, done that, and yet HERE I AM STILL TRYING.
Words to myself: STOP.
As bloggers we are always told that we can turn this “thing” into a full time career, that we can make things happen, & that we can be completely happy working from anywhere in the world, blah blah blah. . . YES .. that may be true, but guess what – it takes time, patience, and work..
DON’T SLAVE YOURSELF OVER YOUR BLOG.
I am SO SO SO DAMN GUILTY of this…
A little about me:
- I created Boss Girl Bloggers, a group of over 29,000 female entrepreneurs and bloggers. I run this group full time, by myself, for FREE. I could have moderators, other admins etc. help me out buuuuut I have put SO MUCH time and work into this group that I just can’t bring myself to let go of managing. (bad I know).
- I also manage my EllDuclos + BossGirlBloggers social medias, as well as Pinterest managing my own Pinterest and several other clients.
- I have this blog AND I am in the process of creating a second website specifically for Boss Girl Bloggers.
- I also blog coach clients weekly
- AND I started an oil biz on the side…
This might not sound like a lot, but OH HOT DAMN it is MORE than a lot for one person to handle. I have been going out of my damn mind, barely finding the time to work on my own content.
Going into blogging full time and making money blogging, I didn’t really think of it as a “hard” job, but the truth is, IT IS MORE THAN JUST WRITING.
- Graphic design
- Promoting & Marketing
- Finance management
- Social media management
- Constant emails & constant messages that you want to make sure you reply to so that you don’t piss anyone off.
- It’s CONSTANTLY being on your computer, or on your phone.
I wake up – work and it doesn’t stop until my head hits the pillow for bed. AND EVEN THEN IT DOESN’T STOP! I am constantly thinking, my brain is on high speed all day and all night. I actually was recently seen by my doctor because of insomnia that I developed once I went full time with my blog…
Wow, this all sounds like so much fun right? …
Don’t get me wrong. I absolutely LOVE blogging, I love writing, I love social media managing, and I love meeting and talking with new people! BUT GUESS WHAT…I CAN’T DO IT ALL.
I am starting to learn that I need to STOP. I need to take a step back. And I need to take care of myself.
I am not saying to stop blogging. I am not saying to stop all the side biz hustles. But I am saying, to stop taking on more than you can handle.
You may think you are superwoman, but I learned the hard way… WE AREN’T. We are damn strong, tough, independent, hard busting a** working females, but we need breaks too!
Our body needs REST, if we don’t give ourselves rest, we become agitated, mentally and physically exhausted, depressed, unhappy, sick, and slowly we stop loving things that we once loved with all our hearts.
So pause, remember why you started blogging, remember that you started blogging because it made you happy, not because you want all the money in the world. It’s because you want to share and inspire others through your words.
If you aren’t finding the time to do so – then you are doing TOO MUCH.
I have learned my lesson and I think it’s time for me to have a mental reset. I am always 100% honest with you all. And this is me being honest. I took on more than I could handle and now my mental health and my own blog content is being jeopardized because of it. Taking on more than we can handle can lead to giving up… This is not me. I will NOT give up, but I will admit that I need to let go of things that I can’t handle. Which means I may not be able to do all that I want to do right this moment, but maybe down the line I can pick it back up.
I know I am not the only one who has ever felt this way, so if you are feeling this way too, this is your note, your reminder, to take a damn break. Reset your mind and STOP taking on more than you can handle. Your mental health, your body, your life is more important than the stress of trying to do too much at once.
& I think my biggest lesson learned is, it’s okay to ask for help.
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